The Inequity of Life

Some lessons are hard to learn, others come more easily....but more often than not we learn things by accident....

Frequently, or so it seems, the lessons that matter most, come from the least likely sources... so much so, that if we aren't paying close attention, we'll miss them altogether;

My first lesson in inequity as a parent came when my daughter tried out for Madrigals, a small group that sings and dances in high school. I was told that she would have to have private vocal lessons to even compete with the other students who would be trying out for the group. This was in high school! Wait a minute.....isn't education, suppose to be the great equalizer?

We lived on the upper east side of our city with a high six figure income....if we couldn't afford to give our daughter private lessons, how would other families who survived on less be able to?

Was he actually telling me that only the PRIVLEDGED would be able to have these kind of opportunities. Just how much money does it take to join a club in high school?

As I discovered, cheer-leading, drill team, choirs, bands, they all require a great amount of money for a child to have the privilege of participating....not only money for uniforms and trips, but unless they have had private, dance, vocal, or instrumental lessons, they just aren't going to be able to keep up let alone get in.

Now, as in almost everything in life, it takes enormous amounts of money to afford your children the smallest of opportunities.


Equal opportunity is a descriptive term for an approach intended to give equal access to a certain social environment, or to ensure people are not specifically excluded from participating in activities such as education, employment, or health care.

The truth is there is always inequity in life. Life just isn't fair.

Every year we gaze enviously at the lists of the richest people in the world, wondering what it would be like to have that sort of cash., while other's are just wondering where their next meal will come from.

If someone works hard, plays by the rules, you would think they should be entitled to some level of equality....it just ain't so. Many who do nothing inherit great amounts of wealth, which in turn allow opportunities for personal growth and enjoyment.

There are no rules when it comes to equality. You either have it in this world or you don't .

So maybe the truly great equalizer is death. But, no wait....even death isn't equal. Some people live to the age of 85 enjoying wonderful health and quick as a wink, die restfully in their sleep. Others, are kidnapped, tortured and brutally killed. Some are killed while fighting for our country, some by tragic disease, others by senseless accidents.

So what about after death????Will we all have the same mansions? Is one neighborhood going to be better than the next.....what about opportunities for continued growth...will we all have special tutors who help us to meet our full potential.

Well, I don't know about you, but I have a few close friends and relatives who have already moved in....I think I'll ask them to buy a few thousand acres for me... just in case all things aren't equal....